Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days

You are confident in most areas of life, and come across as independent and strong. You’re an ambitious woman and very respected in your senior management job, and have lovely group of friends. People look at you and think you have it all under control. And that is true, but...

You turn into an anxious, insecure version of yourself in your romantic relationships. You’re confused why this is happening to you, and are so frustrated with yourself. But even more worryingly, so is your partner. And you fear if you don’t do anything about this now, you already know how it is going to end - by your partner leaving you…

LIFE IS PRECIOUS. HOW WE LOVE MATTERS.

 
 
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Are you longing for the inner calm and self-worth to be unapologetically yourself in your relationship?

 
 
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 Recognise these situations from your own life?

 

  • “You can’t talk together without conversations escalating.” 

The most recent argument started with a simple question from your side to arrange the holiday together. But for some reason you can’t grasp it totally escalated, with him angry and you in tears. He even said he doesn’t want to go at all, leaving you feeling confused, rejected and hurt. It’s been a few days and things are a bit better between you two (maybe partly because you are doing this ‘fake joy’ thing around him you’ve gotten so good at), but the question of the holiday is still left unresolved and you’re dreading bringing it back up.

  •  “You hate your constant begging for his reassurances, but can’t stop yourself”.

You hate feeling so needy, you never do that with friends, or at work. At work you are respected and promoted, and people ask you for your opinion. But with your partner, you’re changing into a small, weak, desperate little girl. Last night you were lingering around him, trying for a hug and to hear he still likes you. When he started to walk away you asked for a cuddle, which made you feel awful about your own neediness. You did get some sort of arm around you, with a tap-tap on your shoulder. Which you pretended to be happy with. Seriously? With that breadcrumb? The whole thing made you cringe and furious with yourself. And the worst thing? You don’t trust yourself that you won’t beg for another crumb tomorrow…

  •  “You worry about your relationship all the time, it's like you're obsessed”.

You occasionally mention going to Couple Counselling together, and you've forwarded newsletters about healthy communication and connection in relationships, asking if he wants to read it. Even though he says ‘sure, whatever’, you know nothing ever happens. It feels like you are dragging a dead horse along, and all he says is that you’re the problem. It makes you sad and insecure: "Is he satisfied like this? Is it me? Am I asking too much? Does he care enough about me and us to want to do effort to improve our relationship?". You shake it off and keep going, trying to be positive, only for the doubt to pop back up again and again. It’s so painful to consider, and because you really love this guy you don’t even want to admit it to yourself, but yet you wonder, “if I’m not happy, is this really right?”. 

  • “You look for proof that he loves you, and only find examples that he doesn’t.”

Last weekend you went for dinner and drinks with another couple. You noticed the way your friend was kissed by her partner. It was kind, tender, intimate, sexy… You could feel his joy when he touched her. It hit you in the guts. When were you last kissed like that by your partner….? In all honesty, you question if he ever kissed you like that… You are certain it must mean that he doesn’t really want or love you. The image does not leave your mind, and the rare moments he touches you feel strangely polite, forced and bland in comparison, leaving you in tears which you quickly blink away. 

  • “Your partner complains you are suffocating him, and you fear he’ll leave you.”

You can tell your behaviour irritates him. It’s like he knows you are constantly checking your phone to hear from him, like he can smell you did not make any plans of your own, hoping he’d want to hang out with you. He keeps telling you to live your own life, which is so hurtful to hear. Your questions about what he is doing, asking what time he’ll be home, wanting to know what he told his friends about you, it suffocates him. And if you’re not careful, you’re going to push him away. 

 

WANT THIS INSTEAD?

Imagine: what would it be like when….

You have normal, calm conversations about absolutely everything.

You no longer need constant validation, you feel resilient and self-assured.

The doubt is gone and you can focus is on getting on with your own life, because everything is relaxed between you two.

Your partner treats you in such genuine, caring and yummy ways, you feel loved in your bones, and can’t stop smiling the entire time.

You give your partner space, and are able to enjoy the time you have for yourself.

 
 

Your life-long benefits of saying yes to “Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days”

 
 
 
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 This and more is possible with “Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days”.

Weekly one-to-one online sessions, plus thoughtfully created online course content to step-by-step build your self-confidence and feel secure in your relationship.

Register your interest here, we’ll start end of April and have only five, four, three places left.

Ready to take your self-confidence to a whole new level, enjoy a sense of ease and calm, and radiate your newly found joy for the benefit of all?

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Life is precious, how we love matters.

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 “I was going through a particularly turbulent time and feeling quite lost. From the first session with Karin I felt a lot of relief and clarity. Her support, kindness, and amazing techniques helped me to understand and process my situation. After each session with her I felt more confidence, greater awareness of my own thought processes, and gradually a kinder and more spacious internal landscape. I found the process totally transformative, not only internally, but also with real changes manifesting in my external life. I am amazed by how beneficial it was. I think Karin is a very special person and can’t recommend her enough!”

JENNIFER COYNE

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THE RESULTS

What will you get out of “Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days“?

  • “Conversations flow and shared decision making is easy.”

Arranging the holiday is part of the fun! There is joy while looking at options together, sharing ideas, exploring places to stay and things to do, and there is even a bottle of wine from the country you are visiting on the table. You’re listening to each other, without getting reactive. The decisions are made together and you both feel very pleased with the location and hotel you’re going to. These conversations are a game-changer, and it brings the two of you even closer together.

  • “You believe you’re loved and that he’ll express he cares about you from his own accord.”

You feel good about yourself, and don’t need your partner anymore to comfort or reassure you. There is a sense of worthiness and peace inside of you, and you can tell your partner finds this incredibly attractive! You now understand the root of your insecure behaviours and you’re no longer acting like a needy little girl. Your sense of humour, spontaneity and playfulness have returned and whenever you’re in the mood for a hug, you simply go and get one, if he hasn’t already given you one first!

  • You never think about your relationship anymore. It’s simply good together!”

This one had a unexpected twist. Starting “Feeling self-confident in your relationship” stopped your obsessive focus on fixing him and improving your relationship, and instead you turned your energy towards feeling better and happier yourself. By taking personal responsibility for your own contribution to the relationship challenges, things actually got so much better between the two of you. You are proud of yourself. It’s nice to feel that you are who you want to be; someone who did the work and healed. The doubt is completely gone, you feel strong, both as a couple and inside of yourself.

  • “You feel deeply loved and physically desired by your partner.”

It’s date night and you feel his hand on your leg below the table. The squeeze is subtle, but unmistaken. The sexy dress you’re wearing makes you feel confident and feminine, and the mischievous look in your partners’ eyes makes you wonder how soon you’ll be having fun in bed together! It’s hard to imagine that not that long ago you were so devastated by the way your friend was kissed, aware of the lack of affection in your own relationship. You’re feeling relaxed and at ease now, and date night is a great success!

  • "You go about your own life, feeling confident and strong."

When you partner is out with his mates, you often don’t even know where he is or with whom. You are enjoying your own evening, pottering at home or hanging out with your own friends. It’s so easy to give him space, without it affecting your confidence. And funnily enough, you are making your own plans more often, without him, and it feels great. It’s now him who asks you to spend time together - he even came up with his own idea to go the theatre together, and already bought the tickets!

 
 
 

Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days

 
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 This is “Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days” in a nutshell:

Weekly one-to-one support sessions, thoughtful workbooks full of exercises, supportive video training guiding you through a transformative self-reflective practice, plus soothing meditation audios.

 
 
 
 

It’s time to stop looking for reassurances, let’s increase your self-confidence together.

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WHY ME ?

Qualified Psychotherapist, experienced Coach, over 15 years of full-time client practice in the City of London and online, dedicated to love for as long as she remembers.

Meet Karin Peeters.

She is both a Coach and a Therapist, and can therefore solve your problem from its origins in your younger years, and at the same time work solution-oriented in the here and now so that your life becomes more fulfilling and joyous. It also means that she has completed a rigorous five year psychotherapy training, has been in therapy for seven years to clean up her own stuff and therefore really knows what she is doing in her profession. Trust me, she has not just taken a course for a weekend and calls herself a specialist like so many out there do.

She has a corporate background, so understands the elbowing culture and the office politics in which you find yourself.

She lived in India and Nepal for a combined total of 3.5 years and attended hundreds of Buddhist teachings, meditation practices and retreats. A friend once called her a commercial tiger and Buddhist Zen monk in one, and that combination of down-to-earth practicality and deep spirituality is indeed very Karin. She likes to bring together modern Western psychology and ancient Eastern philosophy to enrich her clients’ lives.

 
 
 

She doesn’t promise you a magic formula, or a panacea for all ills and, not sure about you, but she certainly didn’t get a handbook at birth. But there is a way of navigating through whatever your love-life throws at you that makes it easier to get perspective, easier to stay in touch with yourself and what’s important, and easier to enjoy a saver, healthier, and more connected relationship.

 
 
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The value and bonuses you’ll receive

Feel self-confident in your relationship in 90 days

£2497

Or pay in two instalments of £1347

A 90 days online program which includes weekly one-to-one coaching & therapy sessions (50 min) - including EMDR Therapy where beneficial -, in-depth videos with coaching exercises, guided meditations, mindful journalling contemplations and step-by-step worksheets to guide you on your path to a deep experience of self-worth in your relationship.

This unique program brings together the psychology of the West and the mystic traditions of the East to guide you on your journey within. It is a thoughtful, inspiring and profound personal development journey to support you on the path to a deeply meaningful way of relating to yourself, and your partner.

Yes, I am ready to step into a confident version of myself:

 
 
 
 
 

Imagine someone walking next to you to, guiding you in the right direction, helping you create an inspiring vision of what’s possible for you in your love-life, and giving a heartfelt nudge each time you get in your own way.

During this profound experience you’ll be supported through your life’s journey in a way that is firmly grounded in the real world that we are all trying to navigate, and doesn’t sugar coat your experience or try to sell you airy fairy spirituality.

Let’s unfold a sense of peace inside of you, a solid foundation of self-worth, and a deeper connection with yourself and your parter. This is a tailor-made program, designed especially for you, to support you on the path to a deeply meaningful way of loving in this world.

Feel invited to lighten the load and move forwards with confidence.

 
 
 
 
 
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“Karin was instrumental in helping me be the happiest, most fulfilled person, through deeply understanding myself and what I truly want out of life, my career and my relationships. I have been working with her for almost a year (and continue to do so), and each session continues to bring valuable new insights. I was hesitant to reach out at first as I had only started with soft unsure feelings about my career trajectory and finding balance, but am very glad I did, as I have learned more about myself than I thought possible.”

Matthew Roberts

 

 
 
 
 

 "Karin helped me enormously through a difficult period. She was always listening carefully, never dismissing any of my experiences, validating them kindly and then offering guidance and useful insights. I was looking forward to sessions with Karin as she is also just such a sweet, compassionate and wise person in general. Highly recommended for anyone who is searching for more well-being and new ways and perspectives to address the difficulties in one's life. The sessions have helped me to gain much needed confidence, peace of mind, and resources to face some challenging life situations.”

Anna Zilman

 

 
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Frequently Asked Questions

 
 
 
 
  • Yes of course! Love it if you’re coming on board. The examples from the program are about moments and dynamics within a relationship. You can simply use examples from previous relationships. Particularly if you recognise a pattern, a kind of common thread, that recurs in multiple relationships, this program will ensure that history does not repeat itself. It’s amazing you want to feel strong and confident, so that you can enter your next relationship at your best! If you have never had a partner before, the training is probably not suitable for you at this time. Then it might be helpful to first see what reason could be behind this (and that is not something “that is your fault”!) and come back to this program in the future.

  • Good question. We may be going a little “too fast” for you. This program is only 90 days and part of it is self-study. A strong foundation within yourself in other areas of life will help you to quickly understand the material and be able to implement it. That said, it's very common for clients who join this program to recognise similar dynamics at work, for example with their manager, or with a parental figure or certain friend. This program will really help, also in those scenarios! If you’re still uncertain, please leave your details here, and we’ll have a chat.

  • The short answer: no. This program is a gift for yourself. The idea is that you become more of your own person again in your relationship, independent from your partner. Not separate, less close, or apart. But independent in the sense that you own your own strength again, and that this is not reliant on your partner. The great thing is, indirectly your partner will definitely benefit from this training, because you will take everything you learn home with you, and as a couple you will reap the benefits!

  • Oh yes, most definitely. It’s common to fall back into old patterns, and to do a new round of Coaching and Therapy brings deeper awareness and new insights. To be clear, if you don’t feel insecure around your partner, can speak your truth with clarity and ease, and feel your emotional needs are met in your relationship, you do not need this program.

  • Oh yes! I am very aware of writing from the perspective of a female, being in a relationship with a male. It’s simply the client I encounter most frequently. But everyone is welcome, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression. I look forward to meeting you, and most likely, learn a lot from you which I’d super appreciate.

  • Besides the weekly Zoom sessions (50 minutes each), you’ll receive online course material to watch and ‘homework’ exercises to do. The more you’ll put in, the more profound your insights and increase of your confidence will be. I estimate about two hours a week will be plenty. When you’re able and interested to invest more time, I can recommened books to read, YouTube or TED talks to watch, and podcasts to listen to from other experts in the field of Love & Relationships. For sure, the time you’ll dedicate to this program will be a lot less compared to how much time you spend worrying or having the same painful arguments…

 
 

In case your question hasn’t been answered yet, it would be my pleasure to speak with you.

Leave your details here, mentioning this course, and I’ll get in touch.

 

I know enough and would love to join, count me in please!